Drowning, Swimming or just Floating?

Whichever the circumstance in life, we will have three ways to face it: Drown, Swim, or Float …

Drowning implies letting the situation overpower you, not intentionally, because non of us intentionally let situations overcome us. It may be because we might not have the strength required to face it or just because it came in a bad moment… This reaction, the drowning, we should make sure happens the least of the time meaning in a negative context. In a possitive scenario, when we drown in a good situation, like when we drown in love, then make sure it happens the most often possible.

Swimming implies fighting against the situation, wishing for something different to happen, wishing for the opposite. It does not matter if the situation is good or bad, in this scenario we fight to change it and get out of it. Why good or bad? Because we sometimes try to get out of good situations thinking we do not deserve them… But that is for another post. Let´s move to the last one…

Floating. This one perhaps is the one that interests me the most. It calls my attention because on this scenario, we are not sure of what to do. We have not reached the point in which we have decided if we want to stay or not, so we just let the current draw us wherever it takes us. This is playing safe for some people, but I like to think about it as a way to loose control over things we cannot change.

Whichever the situation, choose your reaction wisely, for the way we react, determines the outcome of the situation at the end.

 

Love

Tempted? Go Ahead, Give In!

 

No, you did not read it wrong… Are you being  Tempted ? Well, just do it! But wait… Let me explain myself better because I might not be talking about the same kind of temptation you are thinking…

Have you ever woken up and felt like starting doing some exercise? Or have you ever felt like eating a little better or healthier for lunch instead of going to the first fast food restaurant you always visit? The kind of temptation I am talking about will bring you any kind of trouble or regret. This temptaion I am encouraging you to give in to, is the kind that will make you grow as a person and a professional and it will make you a better version of yourself. 🙂 Yay! Right?

Any time you feel tempted to help someone, to prepare that extra lunch box for that coworker never takes food from home, to spend the night taking care of your spouse instead of going out with friends, to buy an extra spmething to give to charity, to make a note saying your beloved one how much you love him/her…. Just go ahead and give in to temptation!!! If you do, just let me know how it brightened up your day and others’….

Love

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Where Are You?

Where do you want to be in a week? … In a month…?  In a year…? In five years?…

Most of us always think of where we want to be in some time, the things we want to achieve in the future, our goals, our dreams… But what about now? Because you will always have NOW, and that’s where you are. If you want to achieve A, B or C, there are some things you could and should be doing now, and if it’s something you don’t have control over, then what you can do is just put everything in God’s hands and wait…

The most important thing you could ever do is work on the present, now, because it will be what you will always have…

Bye 2016

What a year! If someone had told me I would go through all things that happened this year, I would have answered: No way… May I choose another scenario? Hehe… You see, life will not always be what we expect, but we have to face it.

This year I had my heart broken in a way I did not expect, I felt so undone… Then I finally got to have something I had been wanting for so long… And I had to quit to it, I had to say no, because even though I wanted it so bad, I knew it was not for me, and to keep it, it would have meant separation from what I really love. I know it might sound confusing, but sometimes what you want is not what you need, and that was it.

I cried so much this year, I started it out so weak but I am ending it so strong… You see, vulnerability had always been a bad thing to me and for most people it is, but this year I was so vulnerable that I had no opportunity to hide it, but it was what actually allowed strength to develop in me.

Not all things that look bad, are so. All situations are opportunities to grow, to develop strength. Some of them are product of our own mistakes and decisions, some of them cannot be erased or fixed, but all of them are lessons. Some of them teach us to be wiser, others to more patient, others to be more mature, but all of them make us better.

I do not know how many different situations you went through this year, how tough they were or how unexpectedly they came to your life. I do know that it seems 2016 was not anybody’s best year because I can see memes, comments, articles, also many famous and beloved people died, and tremendous and horrible things happened product of the war… No matter how bad you rate this year, I invite you to see it the pther way around, because with God, all things are possible, all of them make us grow, and all of them have a reason to be. May I encourage you to embrace not the bad experiences, but the lessons learned from them.

I am still going to be writing some posts next year, I hope you join me in my adventure and I pray that every time you read from me, you may be blessed with joy and hope. Thanks for a year of support.

Happy, blessed, and joyful 2017!!!

Hugs

No shame

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Credit: Pinterest

I came accross that image a while ago… I encourage you to read it again before continuing and once more after I have finished my words to see if your perspective changes.

A while ago, while going through a rough situation in which someone had betrayed me, I chose to share my feelings with some of my closest friends -as we all do. After a couple of months, I could forgive the person, something that actually seemed impossible at the beginning, and HERE it is when the image above comes…

The actual work was done by God: through him I could see the reasons why the person did wrong to me, and after realizing I have hurt or disappointed people too, it was even easier for me to forgive; but when  saw this image, I could see that these people in some places of South Africa were applying something really valuable, something that could change our so-judgemental-western lives in such a great way… We don’t have villages to sit around and tell virtues to each other when we make mistakes, but we can do so with our closest friends or relatives, those who are family to us. In the middle of a cozy living room, or in a café with some hot chocolate, in an open group or in a an intimate conversation, as needed or as it happens, but with the same essence.

I do not know if what the image says is true, or if it still happens, but I deeply believe that when we perform any kind of misdoings, it IS an actual cry for help… When we find God and he makes ALL THINGS NEW in our lives, we are no longer guilty, our ways are mended and we come clean before Him… We are no longer prisoners, but free. And when any of us make mistakes, our job is to remind that person or even ourselves that we are still human and we might fail from time to time, but we all deserve another chance.

Fight back

fear
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How many times have you been fearful? So fearful that you can’t act, that you can only think of the worst case scenario? When was the last time you didn’t do something because you were afraid? Actually, let me ask that differently: When was the last time you refused to see a promise from God fulfilled because you decided to believe fear it wouldn’t happen? (It sounds harder that way, but that is what actually happens)

For years, fear took advantage of me making me see things impossible for God to do them. I had been promised before and I had been deceived before, I had been lied and I was afraid God had promised something and he wouldn’t fulfill his promise. Fear had won the battle so many times that I actually did not consider the possibility of God changing circumstances. I mean, as a Christian, of course I believed or at least said to myself that He is able to do whatever you can imagine because He is almighty, but I realized I had let fear in for so long, that my faith had withered inside of me making it impossible for me to wholy believe in His power.

You see, it does not matter how bad or how “black” your sin was (or is), because after you aknowledge Him as your savior, by the power of the sacrifice and the shed of his blood upon you, you (and I) are new creatures, He justified us, He paid the price, “There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.” (Romans 8:1)… So let me get this straight for you, fear has NO LONGER power over you. What the enemy wants you to believe is that what you did is so wrong, that the sacrifice is not sufficient, and that God will not have enough power to change ANY situation in your life. In other words, lies.

What you need is only to confess with your mouth and believe in your heart that Jesus is your savior, no need to talk to anybody to make it happen, you can do it yourself right now, there is no need of intermediaries. From now on, as there is no condemnation for you, you have the authority to kick fear’s ass and live the life you were meant to be as a son or daughter of the Almighty God.

 

 

After…

At the time, a broke up, a betrayal, a humiliation, an affront, an ofense, and anything you might be living, might be the only thing you think of. I am not here to tell you to overcome it right away, to forget it and to keep wlaking, that everything is going to be ok or that you should be a good christian and forgive the person now. I mean, don’t get me wrong, those things are true, and they will come, you will feel better and you have to keep walking but… That is not what you want to hear right now and most important, that is not what you should hear now.

What you have to do is cry if you need it, you can yell at the pillow if you want to, you can stay home and watch tv or just sleep while your heart recovers from what you are feeling now. This is not a time to fool yourself and tell yourself everything is ok because your heart is not. And please, again, do not misunderstand me and think I am encouraging depression, no. All I am saying is that for so much time people have dealt with their problems in a wrong way; for example, the so called situation after a breakup, when people go and sleep with the first person they see just to take revenge on their former couples or to tell them they don’t need them, but they are actually still broken inside.

You should not pretend things are fine, you should keep waking up and taking a shower and going to work and smiling, yes, but what you should not do is bury your sadness and let things disappear on their own because when you do that, you are not facing the problem, you are just avoiding it and sooner or later, your unhealed wounds are going to take their toll on you.

Heal, take your time, have dates with yourself, go to coffeeshops and draw, write about it, get a new hobbie… But don’t cover it. Healing, as love, cannot be forced.

Things will get better, they got for me, and at the time, I thought it was going to last for ever.

Love,

Steph